When Alex and I first got somewhat serious in our relationship the “I must get married” urge was strong, but now that it’s been a while, the newness has worn off and I’m not so scared he’s going to leave the first time he sees me having a rough day, I’m wary of the idea. Perhaps it’s because I’ve worked in the wedding industry for the last few years and I’ve seen just how much money, work, and stress a wedding is, and seen so many people legally pair themselves when they can hardly tolerate each other (leaving whether or not they love each other out of this; Alex talks about marriage being a ‘social contract,’ encompassing much more than love, and it’s entirely possible to love someone deeply and really want to tear their heads off at frequent intervals, which may not lead to a healthy life together!).

So, I’m still leaning towards getting married, with the understanding that it has psychological benefits for people who are well compatible and prepared to enter into that contract, and that the financial and legal benefits are important as well. Still torn on the *wedding* issue, though. I have a feeling it’s going to be a simple, laid-back affair for me/us if it ever happens!

When people go forcing their moral values on others they really need to be certain its for the best. Or something…